Sometimes we look back, at the people we once knew and wonder what would it be like if I knew you now. What would your life be like if that person was in it? I'm a firm believer people drift in and out of our lives for a reason. They teach us lessons and leave or maybe they teach us lessons and go...but they all teach us lessons. And some of my greatest life lessons have been taught by people that frankly I'm probably not going to talk to again.
I've read a lot of articles about how Facebook, as a social network, makes us feel more connected to people. That really the idea of friending people and let's face it stalking them online actually makes us more socially detached. We're spending time watching others, maybe not even communicating with them, when we could be spending that time communicating with the people who are actually still in our lives. But I think the real reason people often friend people who they haven't seen forever, people who have faded from there lives, is that they're curious. Curious about that person's life, who that person has become without them being there.
I think we're all kinda narcisstic. Our lives revolve around ourselves mostly, every once in a while around someone else, but mostly it's all about our selfish selves. Internally, I think we all wonder about how we have impacted other people's lives and how they live with out us. Admit it, you've spent passing moments, maybe hours of your life, thinking about whether that long lost love still thinks about you, what they did the day after you left or they left (maybe what they did the month or year after). Heck, I bet you've wondered that about people who you've dated for like minute. And why do we do this?
We all want to believe we've changed the people around us, even if they're no longer around us. We're curious kittens who like to see what people are doing without really being in their lives and Facebook is a nice little fishbowl that has been created to allow you to this without communicating (even though it is ironically a social network). It's the tie that binds us all to every person we've ever met...How did I impact you? What do you do without me in your world? Did I ever matter enough to you to effect you when I'm no longer there? It's heartbreaking really when you think about it.
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you know when you haven't seen someone in forever, so you put off calling them because you know it's going to be a long one when you do... but once you do call, you're like why didn't i do that sooner—it was so great to talk to that person. i guess, to me, facebook kinda helps fill in those gaps a little keeping you in touch so that that doesn't happen. i'm not going to lie, at points it is just a curious thing like you said... but is it so bad to have interest in an old friend's life even if your paths don't cross very often these days? maybe in the future our paths will become intertwined again (maybe not so much in the ex-boyfriend-stalkery case haha...).
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